Love Your Child with All Your Heart

Love yourself with all of your heart. By doing this you set the example for your child so that they can love themselves. In doing so, you show your child that they have the right and the ability to love themselves.

There is no greater act of love!

When your child sees you loving and caring for yourself they will know that they can do this for themselves also. By giving them the space and the living example they will know how much you really love them!
Children learn by example and use what has been modeled for them. If you show them that you do not love yourself with all of your heart they will know, that they do not deserve to be loved. How so, you might ask.

A true loving heart is one that has loved them self first and shares that love with others. Sharing or radiating love is different than giving love.

By showing the child that you do not have love in your heart for yourself and that only others matter, they will then reflect and adopt this behavior as well as this belief system. What you teach them by not loving yourself is that they do not matter only loving others matters.

Teaching a child to love them self first is the sign of a truly loving heart. This truly loving heart is showing them that you love them so much that your personal needs are not involved in the equation, that your love is absolute and pure. The key to teaching this to your child is you learning to love yourself without conditions.

Traditionally people have been taught that the expression and display of love is the most important way to communicate it. But in truth love is a feeling, love is not a display nor a communication. You can feel if someone loves you or not, no matter what their words are. This is especially true for children. They feel your love, no matter what you do or say. As they become older they begin to understand the concept of love as it is explained, but this does not change their feeling experience of what love is.

How is this related to loving myself first you might ask. Well let us tell you, loving yourself first makes you a Hub of Love. They will feel the love that is inside you and no matter what your behaviors are they will know in their hearts that they are loved because they feel the love in your heart.
Please go  to our sister blog - My Unique Child - for more on children.
Remember:

Love Your Child with All of Your Heart

7 Steps That Form Emotions

The following is a simplified explanation of how emotions are formed and the process that you go through in order to have an emotion.
When you understand how emotions are formed and their process you may change your experience of them and make a conscious choice in deciding if you want to have them.


The Formation of an Emotion
1.    an experience occurs
2.    a feeling occurs
3.    a judgment happens
4.    belief system is established
5.    an associated emotional label is attached to the feeling
6.    a thought process or behavior is assigned to the emotional label/feeling/thought
7.    an internal feeling is repeated with the judgment applied to the behavior. An expression in some form is demonstrated or occurs. (sometimes the expression is internal only)

The Process of Emotion
1.    an experience triggers a feeling
2.    an associated emotional label is attached to the feeling (based on the belief system established during the formation of those emotions)
3.     a thought process or behavior is assigned to the emotional label and feeling
4.     a thought, behavior or expression is then demonstrated or occurs.

Emotions are personal experience and each individual experiences them similarly yet differently. Emotions are based in family, cultural, human patterned belief systems.

What we hope you get out of this is that emotions are optional. You may have the ones you like and change the ones you do not. Life is a choice and how you experience it is your decision!

As always we welcome your comments and opinions.

10 Facts about Emotions

10 Facts about Emotions

1.    Emotions themselves are not real!
2.    Emotions are a result of a belief system that judges experiences.
3.    Emotions are labels that people use as a way to define and communicate feelings that go on within the body and mind in order that they may be understood.
4.    Expression of emotions are the result of a belief system
5.    All human beings have emotions
6.    Human beings tend to be governed by their emotions
7.    Emotions are not just for women
8.    Emotions tend to create unconscious behaviors
9.    Emotions do not make you weak
10.  Emotions are misunderstood 


 The expressions of emotions are the result of a belief system that has become habitual in the display in which a person believes they must/should act based upon experiences that bring about feelings inside of them. These expressions then become “normal” and often become automatic.

Quite often people mistake expressive behaviors as an emotion. Emotions are the cause and the root of expressive behaviors. Expressive behaviors of particular emotions may appear to be common but are not normal.
Emotions are what drive the expressions of the emotions. The expression of emotions does not make a person emotional!
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Soul Memory and The Fear of Death

The fear of death is often difficult to understand for many reasons. One is that it may have nothing to do with your human mind or experience. This would make it unexplainable to the human understanding. Sometimes in the human understanding it makes no sense to have these unexplained fears.

 The fear of death may also be experienced at the soul level. The soul is still in the experience of separation and duality. While the soul is experiencing this separateness and still recording life's events from duality/polarity it records the many traumatic experiences that it encountered in the physical body. The soul contains the memories of all of these traumas and can also record fear. This fear then is inexplicably experienced by the human understanding. When the soul has been anchored fully in a human body and had many traumatic physical experiences it will also record the interpretation of those experiences. One of those interpretations is fear. Along with this fear is also recorded the reactions to things that are feared. This then brings along into a new life experience, unconscious behavior patterns that are not explainable in present day.

Death commonly is experienced as a traumatic and fearful event. In the history of the world there have been many wars and very poor medical practices that have led to many painful deaths. The fear and pain encountered during those times is often  anticipated or re-experienced  even if the current death is not painful. This also could possibly create a fear of birth or being alive and in a human body. Based upon these traumas and fears the soul may not want to reattach itself to the body based on anticipation of re-encountering these painful traumas. In truth what is actually occurring is the memories are being re-experienced over and over whether they are actually happening or not. These fears may also create events and circumstances that cause this experience to occur over and over again.

If you happen to have the fear of death or any other inexplicable fears maybe this post will assist you in making sense of them.

Meaningful Relationships

Many people are searching for meaningful relationships. Some reasons for this search are, to complete themselves, to feel fulfilled, to place their love on to someone or be loved by someone etc. These are but a few common reasons for people getting into relationships. Of course there are many more reasons, as many as people can imagine. What most people don't understand is that you cannot have a full meaningful relationship with another human being until you had or begin to have a meaningful relationship with yourself.

The first step to having a meaningful relationship with someone else is to have one with you. This means going on an inner journey of self-discovery. In this process the object is to learn about your patterned behaviors and beliefs systems that contribute to any or all challenges you have had in the past and may still have, in having relationships with other human beings.

Four steps to a meaningful relationship: 

1.    Self-discovery - inner exploration of your beliefs patterned behaviors and attitudes towards other people.

2.     Change - find processes that assist you in making changes in your behaviors beliefs and attitudes.

3.     Unconditional acceptance of yourself - once you have discovered some of your behaviors, Beliefs and attitudes in regards to relationships, accept them. Know that these are just programs that can be changed. Change the ones that don't work in regards to having  meaningful relationships and keep the ones that work.

4.    Love yourself - learning to love/unconditionally accept yourself and be happy with who you are, is required for you to have a meaningful relationship with someone else.